Visiting the snake pit? Here's how to tame the cobras

Unfortunately, you end up in a position where you must interact with people you do not find pleasure in. People who constantly attack you or offend you, throwing insults regarding your life choices, your decisions, your looks, etc. They can be colleagues, "friends" and even "family".

Here are some tips on how to approach these uncomfortable situations and make the cobras dance to the song you play for them:

1) No matter what they say to you in an offensive way, do not show anger as this will portray you as weak and lacking self-confidence

2) Use humor, even if fake. Laugh and then use whatever they throw at you, agree, and amplify it.

For instance:

"You're too thin! Eat more!"

"True, I've been struggling to gain more weight but seems that my body prefers Victoria's secret look."

When asked personal questions such as:

"You're getting old! When will you have a baby?"  

"As soon as I figure out how. I will keep you posted" or I don't know but I will put you on my babysitters' list" 

3) When they throw minor remarks, you can ignore what they say to you, just by turning around, and leaving the place as if you did not hear anything of what they told you. It would be as if you would tell them that you did not find that comment worth your reaction.

The truth is that these people do not deserve your energy, time, or emotions. So why give any?

Love, 

Carmen