Alpha Tuxedo

Unfortunately, you end up in a position where you must interact with people you do not find pleasure in. People who constantly attack you or offend you, throwing insults regarding your life choices, your decisions, your looks, etc. They can be colleagues, "friends" and even "family". Here are some tips on how to approach these uncomfortable situations and make the cobras dance to the song you play for them: 1) No matter what they say to you in an offensive way, do not show anger as this will portray you as weak and lacking self-confidence 2) Use humor, even if fake. Laugh and then use whatever they throw at you, agree, and amplify it. For instance: "You're too thin! Eat more!" "True, I've been struggling to gain more weight but seems that my body prefers Victoria's secret look." When asked personal questions such as: "You're getting old! When will you have a baby?"   "As soon as I figure out how. I will keep you pos...

Let's go in with a bit of a definition.  A standard is a level of quality, a norm, while an expectation is a belief.  To make it easier to understand, let's exemplify. My standard for breakfast is for this to include scrambled eggs and my expectation is to find scrambled eggs on each restaurant's morning menu. Now, my standards will not always be met, also my expectations. I set my standards and it's up to me to have them met, so if a restaurant will not serve scrambled eggs for breakfast I will look and find one which does. But when it comes to expectations it's important to know how to set them correctly. For instance, it would be wrong of me to expect that a vegan restaurant will serve scrambled eggs on their menu so that is why I need to have this expectation only towards the appropriate types of restaurants. The same approach applies to people, or in relationships. For instance, one of my standards is to receive loyalty, so I will not expect this from people wh...