STOP Seeking Validation & Asking for Permission

As social beings we need and want to be accepted by others, but how far will some go for acceptance? Some go so far, even to the point when they deny their true selves in order to portrait someone who is acceptable to the "tribe" they want to be part of. 

But why baby? Why?

Don't you know that if a pair of jeans don't fit, they still won't fit even if you try harder, and in the end, it will only make you feel uncomfortable?

It must be exhausting to play daily the role of being someone else.

I don't want to fit in if I don't fit in. I want to be liked for who I am and what I like defines me. I want to be real to what I like in order to attract similar values, personalities. 

Stop seeking validation and stop asking for permission are some of the first steps to build up confidence. Stop asking for directions from people who were never there. Honey, you should be the one to decide where you want to go and if you want to go there in the first place. Sometimes you might get lost or find out that it was a dead-end road, but it's good, you find it out on your own. You will learn something out of it. You will get smarter, stronger and life experience richer.

Many are not doing things they are supposed to do just because they are scared of others might think of them and this is a big hold back.

Honey, you cannot have self-worth and value and still want to be liked by everybody. 

Know yourself, work on yourself, love yourself, accept yourself and you will fit in, in the right tribe this time.